Creativity and sex

Everyone today is suffering from a virus and I call it a sex virus. Don’t panic, it is congenial and does not harm at once. Sometimes I wonder how this virus has taken everyone in its grip. If you think you are not a prey yet -- you are mistaken. Have you ever thought why sex has become a dominant factor in our lives? In my opinion, the major reason is that we are not creative. We are governed by the social and moral culture. Our educational methods are largely based on intellect. And it is inevitable to understand that creation does not occur through the functioning of the intellect.

When the intellect stops, creativity starts. The intellect or I would say the mind only perceives the word you read, things you see and reacts in a way you have learnt from the environment you live in. And this is absolutely not creation. And as we are uncreative, the only creativity left to us is sex. It’s all in our mind, and as long as we fulfill it we feel happy otherwise frustrated.

No one is happy in today’s world and the only reason is that we are more subjective. We are living in an illusionary world. We are emotionally starved, religiously and intellectually repetitive; we are socially dull and economically regimented. And the only reason behind these is the lack of a creative state of mind. That is why sex has become the only outlet.

Again I don’t only blame the word sex, the problem lies in the desire to recapture the state of happiness by means of sex. We always want to lose ourselves in lofty thoughts, excitement, or in some form of sensation. We sometimes want to escape from self, but don’t know how and where to go.

It is therefore, very important to understand the problems and the hindrances that prevent our creative thoughts and creative living. If we understand this, we can definitely understand the problem of sex.

My favorite song

I dedicate this song to my best friend: (by Celine Dion)

For all those times you stood by me
For all the truth that you made me see
For all the joy you brought to my life
For all the wrong that you made right
For every dream you made come true
For all the love I found in you
I'll be forever thankful baby
You're the one who held me up
Never let me fall
You're the one who saw me through through it all


You were my strength when I was weak
You were my voice when I couldn't speak
You were my eyes when I couldn't see
You saw the best there was in me
Lifted me up when I couldn't reach
You gave me faith 'coz you believed
I'm everything I am
Because you loved me


You gave me wings and made me fly
You touched my hand I could touch the sky
I lost my faith, you gave it back to me
You said no star was out of reach
You stood by me and I stood tall
I had your love I had it all
I'm grateful for each day you gave me
Maybe I don't know that much
But I know this much is true
I was blessed because I was loved by you


You were my strength when I was weak
You were my voice when I couldn't speak
You were my eyes when I couldn't see
You saw the best there was in me
Lifted me up when I couldn't reach
You gave me faith 'coz you believed
I'm everything I am
Because you loved me


You were always there for me
The tender wind that carried me
A light in the dark shining your love into my life
You've been my inspiration
Through the lies you were the truth
My world is a better place because of you


You were my strength when I was weak
You were my voice when I couldn't speak
You were my eyes when I couldn't see
You saw the best there was in me
Lifted me up when I couldn't reach
You gave me faith 'coz you believed
I'm everything I am
Because you loved me


I'm everything I am
Because you loved me

My perception towards life

After so much sex talk, I am really bushed now and want to kink my thoughts in a different direction. This does not mean I am skeptical about writing women’s sexuality; it is just a frame shift of mind with time. I can’t ignore my 1500 gm brain for this makeover. And like me, you all practice this fact, but the impact is so subtle that one fails to recognize it. The best example I can put here — when you chat on google, you change the custom messages and so I do. I sometimes write—I am more like a Rorschach test, my laid back attitude towards life, mere jeevan sathi pyar kiye ja etc., etc – nvm. And I see this on others id as well. Just think over it and then experience the little shift that is taking place in your mind every now and then.

You must be wondering what am I going to write—may be my mind is severely damaged or I have just come out of my coma—but believe me, whatever I am writing today is just a reflection of how I perceive the world and the milieu where I live in. It is not like someone is trying to foist off a crazy idea on me – this is what I am feeling at this moment.


I had never thought about myself so seriously just because of my mollycoddled attitude. Sometimes, I really feel depressed, and a dark silhouette looms around me and the very next moment a dreadful voice comes out of the dark saying— come out of your so called illusionary world; you are cynical, you are a laughing stock and you are nothing. And when I ask why—my past life rolls straight in my mind just to prove the above statement.

This is what life is? Or is it merely a philosophical thought what great people have told us? What about people who talk about luck, destiny? Is your destiny already primed and the supreme power sitting above you is watching every moment of yours just to confirm what he has written is correct? May be—understanding the philosophy of life is not a cup of tea for me. But, still I am going through all these phages.

Now some people might ask, why am I telling my so-called sad story or whatever – I just wanna share. And I remember the very first time when I was browsing a search engine to find what blog means – the very first definition I got was: It’s an open diary. So, friends, please do comment on this blog as your reaction is vital for me.

I know this blog is boring for ppl who take life in a positive and meaningful way and for some blog readers its just an escapist's medium—but I am really happy that I at least got a chance to share my feelings with you guys.

Appreciate the beauty she deserves

A good relationship depends on several factors and I would not forget to mention one that every woman likes – Appreciation! Yes, this is one magic word that could definitely help boost your relationship. So, if you appreciate then its good and if not then start appreciating her beauty. However, you can get some interesting clues through this blog.

Beauty does not mean her face; you can appreciate every part of her body and then feel the difference. Now, the million-dollar question is from where to start. Well, it depends on you and definitely at what situation you want to admire. However, for me I am not a happy camper yet and therefore, I will start with her hair.

Hair: I think this is the most sensual part in a women’s body. It’s my thought and I don’t want to generalize it. Anyway, if I get a chance to meet her, I would definitely appreciate her curly hair. I am not sure whether its straight or curly – Lol…

Lips: I really like Angeline Jolie’s lips and I wish my girl friend would have the same. Anyway, let’s see. And what about you guys? But I really don’t like girls who try hard to look more attractive using so much lipstick. Please don’t do that – let it be natural.

The next part I am going to write is definitely not for me – and she would definitely kill me for that However, since it’s a blog I can write – yes, appreciate her perky orbs or simply you can say – her breast. Again this is another most attractive part and every woman wants to show it in one way or the other. Sorry gals -- but its true. So, why don’t you appreciate her that beauty.

Legs: I am a great fan of women with long and silky legs – Lol. So, if your partner is having this quality then appreciate man… Don’t waste your time. Now, what next – well, now, I can write only one part in this blog coz I am not authorized to write all. And the next part I would love to appreciate is her naval. Yes, it really turns me on – hey I am still a vir…so, don’t take it otherwise – hehehe…

But, guys who are in a relationship can definitely appreciate their partner’s beauty the way they like. I am just trying to minimize the break-up problems that people are facing now- a-days. Respect and mutual understanding play a very crucial role, but appreciation is really important.

Friendship in the virtual world:

Stephen is an 18-year-old college student. He has many friends in college or you can say in his real world. However, when he returns home, he just puts on the PC button and connects the Internet. Since there are various social networking sites, he is also a member of one of them, but this is his virtual world and unlike the real world when he enters in the community his name is displayed as Rocky.

He has many friends from different countries, as he is very fond of knowing their culture, their tradition, cuisine, etc, etc. However, one fine day he met with a girl in the same social networking site, and she is from his native country. He does not know whether her name is virtual or real but after two days, he decided to reveal his real name to her. But when he asked her the same question, her answer was, “what’s in a name man?”

Stephen is not bothered about knowing her name but he sometimes wants to know the same. However, he thought many times about it and then came to the conclusion that she might want to be in the virtual world, so far as this networking site is concerned. But Stephen’s thought was different. He was happy before he knew the truth. He was happy because he got a good friend, but he did not know that some people don’t want to come in the real world just because they think that virtual friends are like strangers.

I want to ask you friends, do you agree with her thought or what Stephen thinks is right? Please jot down your comments.

What is she thinking?

To understand a woman is the most difficult thing in the world. Look into a woman’s eye and judge what is she thinking – what thoughts are running inside her mind. You are curious to know about her but alas you cannot.

It is obvious that every woman thinks and reacts differently but do they react the same way in a particular situation? If yes, then you need not to be scared by coming pretty damn close to your girlfriend or your partner. Let’s find out some similar situations and learn to deal with women.

The very first time you meet a girl: You are excited as you are going to meet a girl you have never met before. You go to a restaurant where she is waiting for you. You glance at her and she smiles. Now, you look at her – she is confident, attractive and sensual. When you look away from her, she quickly gets a chance to glance at you – you know that she is analyzing you. But what is she thinking about? She must be judging your personality.

Ok, now you call the waiter and order your favorite chicken biryani, fruit beer, etc. Now, the time has come to judge her mind. Once your table is occupied with dishes and if she quickly pigged out on chicken biryani – just think that you are not her choice. She is giving more importance to chicken than you – Lol…. However, if that does not happen then you have a great time ahead.

From first date to first kiss: it seems as if she is more interested in you and after a few courtship, she needs to be analyzed again. You are again sitting in a restaurant and she is now somewhat frank. She is trying to touch your leg with her bare feet. If you don’t realize what she wants to say – you are past hope. You are again on the cusp – so, get the signal and respond the same way.

Now you go to a place where no one is going to see you – pull herself and make her realize that you don’t have bad breath and gently kiss her soft lips. What next, you can’t ask her, but you can read her mischievous eyes. It says that she is now ready to spend that intimate moment with you. She thinks why to have sex with you or why not at the next moment. She then realizes how childish she was in her teenage. She would think to remain virgin till marriage – now, it seems funny.

Now finally she says verbally that she is deeply in love with you and wants to be with you. You are so caring and affectionate that I can’t think of anyone else.

Your unforgettable night ever

It’s been three years of your marriage and sexual relationship. But, you have lost the burning desire you had during honeymoon. Do you want to regain that vigor? If yes then be ready now. Because the next few paragraphs could really bring something great and you would definitely thank me for the same. Wait for the night and experience the desire you have lost somewhere.

Start early in the morning: Wake up early when she is still sleeping, take a ball pen and write something sexy on her body. But what body part – well, try it on top of her silky thigh. You can start with “I” and end with the word “You.” And put any verb you like in between. This will really turn her on. Let her fantasise several hours.

In the evening, you need to instigate first. When you are together – just hold her with your hands and kiss the side of her neck. When you kiss or touch a girl the way she wants – she will all be yours. Explore new places that we often ignore – kiss her hand, elbow and the hipbone.

Between the sheets, explore and expand your sexual range. You can experiment something else than you usually do. Realize her that you want to do something and her support is inevitable. Just whisper and tease her with your words. Let her feel that today you want to show her real passion again and you want to go deep into it. Start out with juicy kisses – first kiss her face, outer lips and then roll your tongue inside.

When she reciprocates, roll your tongue below her neck, breast and the clitoris – when she starts crying with passion, let her take you inside. Raise your passion and go deep inside her and sprinkle the fountain desire inside. Do not separate for sometime because that is the most intimate moment you can have.

If you usually don’t talk after having sex, then start this from today. Discuss your session and gently kiss her. Experience this once and please do let me know about it. May be I can help you further.

Why do people have sex?

It’s a hot topic of research and that’s why the outcome is also interesting. According to the University of Austin, Texas study, found 10 reasons why men and women indulge in sexual relationship.

Top 10 reasons

Women

1· I was deeply attached to the person

2· I always wanted to experience the sexual pleasure

3· I wanted to be more caring towards the person I love

4· I wanted to show my love towards the person

5· I was sometimes irresistible and wanted to release the same

6· I was sexy

7· It’s a real fun

8· I came to know that I was in love

9· I was aroused at that moment

10. I love sex

Men

1· I was deeply attached to the person

2· It really feels good to have sexual relationship

3· I wanted to experience this relationship

4· I wanted to express my love towards her

5· It’s fun

6· I was sexy

7· I was sometimes irresistible and wanted to release the same

8· I wanted to show my love towards her

9· I wanted to reach the climax

10· I wanted to make her feel happy

So, please let us know what are the points that suit your sexual behavior?

Seduce women the way you want

Some people have more sex than others? Have you ever thought of it? If not, then I have got the answer. I am going to take you to a trip around the world just to find the hidden sexual secrets. The following survey listed below was done by experts and therefore, I would like to thank all of them.

Let’s find out what kind of sexual acts are popular in foreign countries. First I would like to start with England. According to the survey conducted by experts British men are meek and irresistible. That’s the reason why they can’t even wait to get back to the flat. It has been reported that Brits due to their irresistible nature do sexual act on public transportation and gardens.

So, how do they do that on public transportation and gardens? Well, they know the act. And you can also do that if you are inspired… First arouse her excitement – pull her towards you and stroke her neck. Make her feel comfortable and proceed further.

Australia:

Everyone loves car, but Australians love car for lovemaking. Sounds funny –yeah, but its true. The survey report says that almost 75 per cent of Aussies have had sex on the road.

How to proceed: The perfect time to start with is while you are heading to a party with your love. First lure her to the driver’s side and then graze her smooth inner thigh with your naughty fingertips. When she starts showing her interests for the same – park the car somewhere near a dark place. And then start making love.


India:

Indian people follow some traditional rule. They are more interested in going on a journey to an orgasm rather than going for the final destination. And that’s why sexual act is gradual and the seduction process involves courtship, touching and kissing. In India, a very beautiful technique called Karezza is practiced. In this process men can remain inside the woman for 10 minutes. The main thing about sexual pleasure is the duration and this technique allows you to delay the climax. And therefore, to maintain erection, you need to penetrate her slowly and gently. Caress her, match your breathing with her equally and passionately, maintain eye contact and reach the final destination.


Netherlands:


Here both men and women are confident. Guys know what they want and how to ask for it. According to the survey 64 per cent of Dutch men and women are confident and freely express their sexual needs during lovemaking process.

Though I am still a vir..., I would definitely love to practice Indian or Netherlands style of love making. What about you guys?

Gift for Your Girl

Okay, her birthday is coming and you wanna surprise her with something different yet special. There are numerous gift ideas for a girl. Think of ideas possible. Soft toys, bouquets, chocolates, special dresses, and if you want something more special, you can think of diamond rings. Or try some unique ideas if you can think of.

The most wanted thing we need is communication. Give her a mobile phone and start your endless talks anytime anywhere. Impress her with the latest handset. Fill up your days and nights with her sweet talks. It may cost you some heavy bucks, but love is more valuable a thing than this. Search for the latest fashionable mobile handsets with impressive features. Buy that easy prepaid or post-paid scheme and enjoy endless talks. Be in touch through cute SMSes. Send her romantic forwards. Or if you follow a good taste for penned down thoughts, then simply type your original message. Write something very special or a sweet romantic line to her just to tell her how much she means to you.

Or, try out some romantic ideas. If you are into photography, then a perfect personal album can do the tricks for you. Collect her pictures from her childhood album. Try to gather those pictures of the two of you together. Make a collage of the photos and create an amazing album out of it. Your girl cannot ignore but love you more!

Flowers are the traditional way to express your love. Nothing can speak the language of love any better than the flowers do. Red roses never go out of fashion. They are fresh and young forever. One single rose or a big bouquet of red roses, the message goes simple and straight anyhow. If you are creative enough, then you can try your hands out for a short romantic poem or a special message. Remember the wonderful moments you spent together. Words will flow out naturally. Now carefully tie your love note to the bouquet. You are sure to see that blushing red tinge on the cheeks of your girl.

Dark chocolates are girls’ favorite delicacy. Nothing can set the right mood than the taste of chocolates does. Buy her a bunch of chocolate toffees with different shapes and sizes. You can pack them separately with sparkling wrapping papers. Then make a basket of your chocolate toffees. The colorful chocolate wraps are sure to bring smile on her face. Any gift minus the card is like a bottle of perfume without the fragrance. Select a good card that speaks the language of your heart. It really makes the occasion special.

For Better Vision and Beautiful Eyes

For those sufferring from weak eyesight, here are some useful tips to improve their vision.

1. Early to bed and early to rise may sound cliched but it's effective for good eyesight. Try to wake up before sunrise and sprinkle cool water on your eyes about 10-15 times. Late birdies are suggested to drink a glass of water every hour.

2. Do not wash your eyes or face when your body is sweating too much.

3. A regular eye exercise can be effective - move your right and left; upwards and downwards, then rotate clockwise and anti-clockwise.

4. Add lots of carrots, tomatoes and cabbages in your regular meal.

5. Do not stare continuously for a long time. Wash your eyes very often if you are glued to your PC.

6. Protect your eyes from dust, smoke and direct sunlight. Wear shades while going out in the sun.

7. Always wash your eyes with cool water before going to bed. Do not forget to blink often.

Remember that your eyes can speak a thousand language that words can't reach. So don't let them down.

What you generally do after having sex?

It’s a question to all those who have experienced sex. I can’t be a part of this questionnaire since I am still a vir…


Ok, let’s answer these questions: What you actually do after having sex or great sex or whatever…

1. Sleep
2. Cuddle
3. Smoke
4. Go for a bath
5. Watch Television
6. Drink

Size zero – the latest fad in the women’s fashion world

Yes, today the latest buzz in the fashion industry is size zero. First of all check out the web definition of size zero, “Size 0 is a women's clothing size in the US catalog sizes system equivalent to a UK size 4. It is also a concept within the European fashion media.” With this definition you can get some idea, but I personally could not understand the exact meaning of size zero. The main reason is that I have heard of only one size i.e., 36: 24: 36 -- known to be the perfect body size in women. If size zero means 00:00:00 then I would rather call it a skeletal model.

From fashion industry to Hollywood and Bollywood – all are craving to be in the same category. I don’t think a regular or even rigorous workout would help them achieve that skeletal look. So, what is the secret of achieving a size zero persona? I think they are very much inspired by the current report on food scarcity – word’s renowned researchers have come to the conclusion that the demand and supply ratio in terms of food production and consumption is disproportionate. And to tackle with such situation, we have two options, either produce more food or eat less. So, size zero concept is quite overwhelming, as today’s women are more active and sincere.

So, guys, are you in favor of producing more food or want sizzling beauties to transform into a skeletal look? I think, this would really be unfair. I am in favor of producing more food and let women be in their original and sensual body look.

Use raincoat while having sex

What you call a condom – a raincoat, a balloon or what? Many of us feel guilty while pronouncing the word condom – the most important thing in today’s modern world. I watched a movie in which the actor had to buy a condom from a medical shop. When he approached there – he could not tell what actually he wanted to buy. He said, “Can I have something small, rubber or balloon or something like that.” After so much pretension, he finally whispered, I want a packet of condom. In real life also many people find it difficult to buy condoms from a medico shop.

I started searching on the Internet just to find condom-buying tips. Again, thanks to the Internet – I got some interesting tips and it is inevitable to share some of them with you guys.

First of all I would congratulate all those people who want to use condom for a safe sex. Your decision shows how much you feel responsible for your sexual drive. Using condoms, you not only protect the chances of pregnancy, you also avoid sexually transmitted diseases.

Now if you really feel shy buying a condom – use vending machine for the same. In many cities, vending machines are available – there is no one to watch you – follow the instructions and buy condoms. What if, you don’t have access to vending machine – you will have to visit a medical shop. If you can’t say directly, write the name of the brand on a small piece of paper and then show it to the shopkeeper.

Another easy means of buying condoms is through online shopping. If you have a PC and Internet connection, you can buy products online. However it is very important to know what type of condom you should buy. There are two types of condom: male condom and female condom.

In addition, one thing that you should know about condom is the material: condoms are made up of either latex or polyurethane. As far as preferences are concerned, latex made condoms are more popular and reliable. However, many people are allergic to latex and in that case polyurethane could be the right option. So, buy condoms and enjoy your sex life, always.

Help me find someone special

After break up with my partner, I was really feeling bored. I was alone in the beach of love. Definitely, for few days, I never thought of any other girl. I was really angry and shocked, how a beautiful girl can dump her boyfriend without any obvious reasons. Anyway, I think she does not deserve to be my friend or love, whatever.

It’s been almost 2 months of my breakup and now I think it is time to look for a girl who could better understand me. But, frankly I don’t have any idea about these things. I can’t search someone on Yahoo Messenger or I can’t even glued into social networking sites like Orkut or Minglebox for the same. Can anyone help find my dream girl? Please share your experiences and tips, if any.